For the last 5 years our daughter Anika has been the only child and only grandchild in our family.
Needless to say she’s had the lion’s share of attention for the full 5 years.
With the pending arrival of our son we tried to make extra effort to make her feel special and to buy out one-on-one time with her.
The morning before my wife and son would leave hospital, I took Anika for a dad-daughter breakfast. While we were busy eating I commented that I really love spending time with her and having breakfast with her this morning. She grabbed another piece of bacon and with a nonchalant shrug replied “Yip, it’s nice but the food is nicer!” and carried on eating as if nothing was said….
For a few seconds I was really taken aback and my proud daddy ego was shattered in a million pieces across the restaurant floor! But as I sat there, regrouping and picking up the pieces, I quickly started to realize that she was simply being honest. The kind of pure honesty that most adults have lost.
O, how different the world would be, if more often, we could say the things that need to be said! If, when necessary, we could be lovingly honest (instead of brutally honest) and say what someone need to hear?
If we could get to a point where everyone is honest we also wouldn’t be so easily offended.
Shouldn’t we as friends be comfortable enough to say “Hey buddy, I think you should go with the salad tonight, you’ve picked up a few pounds” ? Or simply when someone asks “How are you?” reply honestly instead of saying the customary “I’m fine thanks!”
Wouldn’t it then be easier to know where you stand with people?
Honesty is more than not lying. It is truth telling, truth speaking, truth living, and truth loving.
James E. Faust
Why don’t we all try add a dash of honesty to our daily lives today?