I love you the more in that I believe you had liked me for my own sake and for nothing else. – John Keates
I believe that one of the greatest blessings in a man’s life is to find a partner who believes in you unconditionally. Through every victory and most of all, through every failure.
I am one of those men.
I met my wife, Annél, in early 2007, we had our first date on 9 March of 2007, got engaged on 9 June of 2007 and got married on 26 January of 2008. This whole process was mere formality as we both knew that it was meant to be. We also had to wait for my brother to return to South Africa from the USA in 2008 before we could get married, otherwise it would most certainly have been earlier.
When I asked my father-in-law-to-be for his blessing, his first words were “Are our sure?”. His tone of voice implied disbelief more than seeking confirmation.
Our marriage so far included victories, a few failures and lots of challenges but more than anything else, love. Everyone that knows me will tell you that I am tempramental at best and downright difficult at times. Annél has the ability to look past all of this and simply love and support me.
When I decided to leave my steady, well-paying job of 7 years at the end of 2016, she simply said “Let’s do it.”. No “what-ifs” just simply go for it.
We’ve just been through a gruelling 6 months of working together, 24-7, on a project which pushed every single one of our limits. We made it, and I dare to say we’re stronger for it.
In the game of golf, when playing competition in teams, there’s a term called “dove-tailing”. This means finding the rhythm where, when one partner hits a low, the other partner is at a high and can carry the team. Although we don’t always get the perfect dove-tailing rhythm, we’re pretty darn close!
This coming January of 2018 marks our 10 year aniversary and I can look back and honestly say I was blessed beyond measure.